Self Soothing: An Antidote for Suicide?

Self Soothing: An Antidote for Suicide?

Recently, designer Kate Spade and chef Anthony Bourdain succumbed to suicide.
In 2016, nearly 45,000 others did, too.
54 percent did not have known mental health conditions.
Relationship problems, legal problems, health or job or financial problems, the everyday issues that affect everyone.
This means suicide can happen to anyone.
Just about everyone I know has thought about suicide at one time or another.
Everyone. I. Know.
Genius poet Marcel Proust said, "If not for my thoughts of suicide
I would not have made it through the darkest nights"
How can we help?
First...acknowledge that all have these feelings sometimes:
• Isolated
• Stuck, going nowhere
• Sadness or despair
When you have these feelings, you are not alone.
We are all in this together.
You are not defined by your feelings, but do respect your feelings
Because they matter.
Because You matter.
Think of your feelings as indicators of where you are focused.
And once you know where your mind is, you can do something about it: because while you may not be in control of your conditions, you are in charge of where you focus.
It's challenging to focus on feeling better when you feel worse
but it is possible to shift, ever so slightly,
Just for this moment, to do something that feels slightly better
Small steps. Like ice cream. Or hot coffee. Or the way you feel when you pet your dog.
And that one small better feeling thought softens you
And eventually, it shifts you
Eventually.
My friend Mary says trying to change something huge from a place of panic is like trying to turn a cruise ship on a dime
The momentum is too strong
It's unreasonable. And it's unnecessary.
Turn the steering wheel just a little at a time
And know that you are shifting direction just the same
So...Pet your dog
Take a walk
Take a bath
In that moment you are turning towards the solution
You may not feel the turning, or see the evidence;
You may be asleep when the shift happens
But one day, you will wake up into a new sunrise
Be patient
Be self-soothing
right now, In this moment
Where all your power is.

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